because motives matter
What I have seen is that you cherish this woman. What I have seen is that you are willing to point her toward Christ and his Word. What I have seen is that your love is sacrificial and stable. I’m confident you are ready to do this, and do it well.
The boundaries we create should not be about what annoys us, but about what blesses those we are called to serve. Wear your authority lightly and take your responsibility seriously.
What could a piece of paper add to love? Nothing, really. But marriage could add a great deal.
The highly individualistic self-seeking model of modern marriage is not exactly an improvement.
Maturing, married love is rooted in a shared story and refreshed by a new commitment, often in the full shadow of our failures. It involves learning to linger again.
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