We cherish and nurture our own body—yet in marriage we become one flesh. We take care of ourselves. We look out for ourselves. And in marriage men learn better than anywhere else to love someone else, to look after her interests, to be thoughtful and careful and kind.
There are two extremes to be avoided. Don't be an abusive and aggressive husband who says no for the sake of saying no. And don't be a disengaged, passive husband who can’t say no at all.