There are two extremes to be avoided. Don't be an abusive and aggressive husband who says no for the sake of saying no. And don't be a disengaged, passive husband who can’t say no at all.
The boundaries we create should not be about what annoys us, but about what blesses those we are called to serve. Wear your authority lightly and take your responsibility seriously.
Telling the story in ways that don’t mislead or defraud is essential. Unfortunately, the story is often oversold and over sanitized. That always reflects bad leadership.