Over 20 years ago we discovered that tea made us slow down, and that’s what we need. The whole process— measuring and filtering and waiting— is a metaphor for the intentionality of marriage itself.
We have not learned to love our wife if we have not learned to provide unexpected and gracious gifts that reflect our knowing and understanding her heart.
We wouldn’t do it again, at least not the same way. Or advise it. There was stress and silence. And there was anger and hurt. Family pictures don't tell the whole story.