because motives matter
There are two extremes to be avoided. Don’t be an abusive and aggressive husband who says no for the sake of saying no. And don’t be a disengaged, passive husband who can’t say no at all. Continue reading the work of a lifetime
What I have seen is that you cherish this woman. What I have seen is that you are willing to point her toward Christ and his Word. What I have seen is that your love is sacrificial and stable. I’m confident you are ready to do this, and do it well. Continue reading a blessing on your head
The boundaries we create should not be about what annoys us, but about what blesses those we are called to serve. Wear your authority lightly and take your responsibility seriously. Continue reading loving leadership
What could a piece of paper add to love? Nothing, really. But marriage could add a great deal. Continue reading let her eat bread
The highly individualistic self-seeking model of modern marriage is not exactly an improvement. Continue reading the mid-wife crisis
Maturing, married love is rooted in a shared story and refreshed by a new commitment, often in the full shadow of our failures. It involves learning to linger again. Continue reading (re)learning to linger
I’ve been blogging now over nine years, and am planning to pull together some collections of these essays as small paperbacks that could be shared with others. I’ve outlined them here, and welcome your feedback on which ones you might find helpful or interesting. Continue reading (re)collections on God’s faithfulness
