We cherish and nurture our own body—yet in marriage we become one flesh. We take care of ourselves. We look out for ourselves. And in marriage men learn better than anywhere else to love someone else, to look after her interests, to be thoughtful and careful and kind.
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Tag Archives: marriage
the work of a lifetime
January 3, 2013 
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There are two extremes to be avoided. Don’t be an abusive and aggressive husband who says no for the sake of saying no. And don’t be a disengaged, passive husband who can’t say no at all.
Read more a blessing on your head
November 15, 2012 4 Comments
What I have seen is that you cherish this woman. What I have seen is that you are willing to point her toward Christ and his Word. What I have seen is that your love is sacrificial and stable. I’m confident you are ready to do this, and do it well.
Read more loving leadership
July 26, 2012 1 Comment
The boundaries we create should not be about what annoys us, but about what blesses those we are called to serve. Wear your authority lightly and take your responsibility seriously.
Read more let her eat bread
July 17, 2012 1 Comment
What could a piece of paper add to love? Nothing, really. But marriage could add a great deal.
Read more the mid-wife crisis
March 5, 2012 3 Comments
The highly individualistic self-seeking model of modern marriage is not exactly an improvement.
Read more (re)learning to linger
November 8, 2011 6 Comments
Maturing, married love is rooted in a shared story and refreshed by a new commitment, often in the full shadow of our failures. It involves learning to linger again.
Read more(re)collections on God’s faithfulness
August 22, 2011 5 Comments
I’ve been blogging now over nine years, and am planning to pull together some collections of these essays as small paperbacks that could be shared with others. I’ve outlined them here, and welcome your feedback on which ones you might find helpful or interesting.
Read more men will be boys
February 21, 2011 36 Comments
No thoughtful young woman wants to marry a boy. Nor should she have to.
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the end of a love affair
Marriage is a covenant, not a compromise between drapes and blinds, or white walls and eggplant colored throws. It is not about the art; it’s about the heart.
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