Cherish this woman. She is for you, all fair, more lovely than you know, stronger than you expect, more forgiving than you deserve.
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marriage as transformation
March 29, 2013 
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We cherish and nurture our own body—yet in marriage we become one flesh. We take care of ourselves. We look out for ourselves. And in marriage men learn better than anywhere else to love someone else, to look after her interests, to be thoughtful and careful and kind.
Read more loafing as a virtue
January 16, 2013 6 Comments
The “miraculous in the common” here is that no effort or words were needed to know we were deeply blessed and greatly loved.
Read more on covenant making
January 7, 2013 3 Comments
A covenant is more than a contract. It does not protect our interests, as a contract does. It surrenders them. You come here to surrender yourself to the interests of each other, and you do this by making an oath. There is no mingling of blood, but a mingling of purpose as God himself makes you one flesh.
Read more the work of a lifetime
January 3, 2013 1 Comment
There are two extremes to be avoided. Don’t be an abusive and aggressive husband who says no for the sake of saying no. And don’t be a disengaged, passive husband who can’t say no at all.
Read moreCovenant-keeping, sanctifying love
December 3, 2012 4 Comments
The covenant you make is sacred and permanent. It is approached with reverence and sealed with blood. There is no backing out or giving up. You will swear before these witness to cherish each other until our Lord comes or until death alone shall part you.
Read more a blessing on your head
November 15, 2012 4 Comments
What I have seen is that you cherish this woman. What I have seen is that you are willing to point her toward Christ and his Word. What I have seen is that your love is sacrificial and stable. I’m confident you are ready to do this, and do it well.
Read more masquerading as marriage
October 29, 2012 1 Comment
There is a wedding chapel down the street, and apparently you can still book a “hallowedding” this month. You can book a “ghost bride séance” as well, with a “certified minister” on site to keep it, you know, official. Walk-ins are welcome, but the package includes a medium to tell your future and a spooky […]
Read moreRetrospective 2009
August 29, 2012 0 Comments
We have all of us only scratched the surface of this mystery. No poet or philosopher or prophet has fully plumbed its depth, understood its power, or known its joy.
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the end of a love affair
Marriage is a covenant, not a compromise between drapes and blinds, or white walls and eggplant colored throws. It is not about the art; it’s about the heart.
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